the CHILD
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I ALWAYS
A ground-breaking memoir series that takes readers on a journey into the life and mind of a male survivor of childhood abuse
“Don’t judge a person by their scars; and don’t scar a person by judging them.”
THE CHILD I ALWAYS WAS MEMOIR SERIES
BOOK ONE: THE BASE REMAINS UNBROKEN
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The Base Remains Unbroken is the first book in a ground-breaking memoir series that invites you, the reader, inside the mind and life of a male survivor of childhood sexual, physical, and emotional abuse and neglect. Offering a gripping and visceral depiction and explanation of the reasoning process, thinking, and behavior patterns that were adopted and developed in response to the abuse that has been suffered, endured, and overcome.
Told in a format that uses amazing visual imagery, The Base Remains Unbroken takes its readers on an unforgettable and heartbreaking journey to helps them see and understand - first hand - how the abuse came about and how it was processed, rationalized, and stored within the mind and body to create the life that was ultimately played out.
We are born into this world clean slates and it is from the roots of our childhood that a foundation is set for our lives. Just as a house must have a firm foundation upon which to build and support the remaining structure, so must a person’s life have an adequate foundation. It is this foundation, this base, which allows a person to build a life for themselves upon. Just like a house, as we grow and age into adulthood, we build additions, weather storms that batter and beat our exteriors, and perhaps may even be consumed by pain and suffering so overwhelming that the framework we have erected is broken and scorched to the ground. But one thing remains, no matter what happens to the house itself: the foundation, the base, remains unbroken.
SAVING GRACE
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The story continues in the second book of this heartfelt and visceral memoir series, Saving Grace. Picking up where The Base Remains Unbroken leaves off, the story continues as this broken young boy continues to grow into a teenager; struggling to make sense of a world that wants to help and “save” him but instead makes him feel increasingly isolated and unloved.
The foundational base has been fired in the kiln and is now set to cool for a time. The traumatic repercussions resultant from the abuse our young survivor endured are now a solidly melded part of his foundational psyche and cognition . In Saving Grace, we are given an insightful and gripping view into the lingering effects of the abuse as the beginnings of a stable support structure does its best to hold itself up and take root around this secretive, shape-shifting base.
The imprints of our childhood leave an indelible mark on our hearts and our minds as we continue to grow and mature, and while we often do our best to fit in and appear "normal", Like a beautifully crafted, cusotm-built house built on an unknown fault line, it is only a matter of time before the beautiful exterior breaks and calves into a pile of rubble. While the foundation still stands, the delicate structure that was tentatively built for beauty and outward appearance is revealed for the facade it was. Now, its owners, thankful to have come through the traumatic event alive, must work to rebuild their home and build a more solid and stable framework and structure upon the uncertain and shaky ground. But to rebuild a sturdy structure on the same ground only provides a false sense of security and results in a warped sense of saving grace that will likely result in further devastation and destruction.
LONG NIGHTS JOURNEY INTO LIGHT
AVAILABLE OCTOBER 2015
The story continues in the third book of this heartfelt and visceral memoir series, SLong Days Journey Into Night. Picking up where Saving Grace leaves off, the story continues as this shaky and uncertain teenager matures and grows into adulthood; fighting and clawing through the rubble of his shattered life to make sense of a world that seems bent upon his destruction and continued isolation.
Realizing that the shaky and unstable ground upon which his foundation has been set, he must struggle to move past the foundation he has known his entire life and find a new foundation upon which to settle and rebuild. With nothing but shattered dreams and remnants of his past left, he picks up the pieces and moves out into the world to find his place in it. In Long Nights Journey Into Light, we are given a poignant, honest, and unbridled view into the beginning stages of lasting recovery and the hurdles and obstacles that must be overcome, the challenges that must be met, and the demons that must be faced to find peace. As the dust settles and we are left with only a few jagged and scattered pieces of rubble from the only home and life we have known, we must face the reality of an uncertain future and work to find a place to lay a new foundation upon and work to rebuild a life that has been harshly beaten - but that still has no been completely broken.
BEAUTIFUL RELEASE
AVAILABLE JANUARY 2016
The story of this young boy is not over, but the healing process has begun and a release point has finally been found. In this fourth book and conclusion to The Child I Always Was memoir series, the author provides readers with an analytical and psychology-based approach to dissecting the traumas, experiences, and recovery processes that have been written about in The Base Remains Unbroken, Saving Grace, and Long Nights Journey Into Light. Going back into early texts, the author provides further insight into the psychology, behavior patterns, and mindsets that took place at various points in his life, and helps readers understand and find links to the suffering child within that remains hurt and scared, even well into adulthood.
This book is also an invaluable resource to those survivors, especially male survivors, who are looking to find release and healing from their past childhood abuse and trauma. The author brings to light techniques, strategies, and insight into how to connect with and rebuild a relationship with the child within that remains, and how to bring about lasting healing to release this child and live the life you are destined for.
WALKING WITH HIS INNER CHILD: LEARNING TO LOVE THROUGH THE HURT
AVAILABLE SPRING 2017
For many men, the shame and hurt that is attached to their abuse as they grow and mature, results in them struggling to find love and share intimacy and develop positive and appropriate relationships in their lives. Even for those that settle down and have a family, the struggle within them often shines through as their family and friends struggle to comprehend and understand how to love and help them.
In this insightful and heartwarming book, one woman recounts her struggles to understand how to help and love a man whose secrets and hurts keep him trapped in his past, and reveal how she came to find comfort and solace in finding and walking with his inner child to help him heal and learn to love again.
A powerful and important book for anyone who loves a boy or man who has been hurt by childhood abuse and/or trauma and wants to find an understanding and empathetic heart that understands their strggule and heartbreak and helps give them practical gudiance and wisdom into how to love that scared and frightened boy within to love them through their hurt and help them find peace.
